Coping With Stress

Just "coping with stress" has become the very cornerstone of survival for so many people.

Over time, what happens is that it can become harder and harder to believe that not being stressed is possible.


Because for many, being stressed often becomes a way of life. It does not have to be that way.

I have heard it spoken by Maya Angelou that,

"If you teach, you have to live that teaching."

I have lived the teachings I will coach you. And, I have walked a mile in your shoes...

Many years ago, my mother had a major stroke. For the subsequent five years until her death, I gave up my life, as I knew it, so that I could be her primary caregiver. I was still working a full time job, and had my own family responsibilities, but all other facets of my life I had given up so that I could be there for her during the hardest time of her life.

After nearly a year of coping with the stress of being her primary caregiver, I had found myself living in a true bunker within my own life.

All the stress had begun to take a toll on me. Besides trying to just cope with it, I couldn't see how to survive except to try and just ignore its impact on my life - particularly, physically and emotionally.

Back in my college psychology classes, I had learned that managing stress was largely about having the time to "do" something to mitigate it:
  • go to the gym to workout
  • go to a yoga or pilates class
  • go get a massage
What I was keenly aware of during that time as my mother's caregiver, was that I did not feel like I had any extra time or energy to do what I learned would help me in coping with stress.

At a certain point in one's life, I believe that most everyone experiences a tipping point. It's a place where, retrospectively, you can recall,

"That is when everything changed."

I had found myself, and these teachings - literally - while at one of those tipping points in my own life.

It was a deep honor to care for my mother during these times of immense heartache and change in both our lives.

It was because of this challenge, that a deeper understanding of the human condition and its relationship to stress began to emerge within me.

That understanding created more possibilities for me than just coping with stress.

It was as if I was seeing anew all that I had previously been taught about managing stress, but from the viewpoint of a new lens.

A holistic lens.

It was as if a light had gone on and I finally "got it". I began to understand the integrated relationship that exists between stress and the BEST of who you are.
  • Body
  • Emotions
  • Spiritually
  • Thoughts

It was then that I began to utilize some very basic stress techniques that I could use throughout my day that didn't involve me having to go anywhere else, or really "do" anything else.

I had come to understand some core stress management techniques that I could DO while in the midst of all the stress in my life.

Subsequently, these teachings have become the foundation for helping so many of my clients to effectively manage their own stress.

When you can effectively manage your stress, you also regain control over your life.

I "get" the journey of stress you are on because that is where I once walked.

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Just like with me, most people are aware of the damage unmanaged stress can create, many have never been taught the everyday skills needed to effectively manage it. That is how I can help you.

Part of the problem is that it has become so commonplace to speak of coping with stress as casually as we do the weather.

"How are you doing? I'm stressed, but fine. How 'bout you?"

You can't fix something that you cannot see.

Sound familiar?

Just surviving life in this way makes it harder for you to be aware of the toll unmanaged stress is taking on your health (thoughts, physical, emotional, spiritual) and overall well-being.

Many of the clients I have worked with had not felt there was much they could do about their stress except coping with it.

The reality is that there is nothing glorified about chronic stress and the impact it will have on you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

Stress does have a memory...and,it does not just "go away". There is a very real belief that,

"I'm tough, I can get through this."

There is actually some truth to that. But, the question to ask yourself is,

"What price (physically, emotionally, behaviorally) am I willing to pay to just keep enduring stress?"

Why is managing stress so hard?

Coping with stress when it becomes chronic is challenging because it can impact your “normal” life in so many ways:

Physical symptoms
Chronic headaches
Chronic back pain
Chronic muscle tension
Cardiovascular disease
Decreased immune function
Stress stomach problems
Sleep insomnia

Thoughts and emotional health
Anxiety attacks
Sense of being restless
Increased anger
Depression symptoms
Feeling more insecure
Frequently forget things
Trouble concentrating
Worries a lot

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Don't be duped by stress

Here are some helpful things to understand about coping with stress:
  • It actually is possible to ignore the impact of stress...for awhile. Stress is cumulative, so overtime, you WILL begin to notice its effect on your life, particularly physically and emotionally.

  • "I'm too busy to deal with my stress". I truly understand that feeling. Despite the demands on your life, what most people don't realize is how simply stress can be effectively managed.

    You DON'T have to suffer before learning how to effectively manage your stress.

  • The effects of stress ARE cumulative.

Stress WILL dupe you in time. But, the human body is very resilient, and it does take time for the impact of stress to manifest.

For many of my clients, they could recall the early warning signs:
  • headaches
  • neck/shoulder muscle tension
  • not sleeping well
  • irritability
These types of early warning signs are a communication from your body telling you that you have been stressed for too long, and that unmanaged stress is beginning to take a toll you your body and quality of life.

But, until you have the knowledge and skills needed to actually manage the physiology of stress, it will continue to negatively affect you physically, emotionally, and behaviorally.

I can help you avoid stress wearing you out

Because of the time it takes to wear your body down, how you were able to cope with stress when you were 20, will be different than how you will/won't cope with it when you are 30, 40, or 50+ years old.

None of us are able to handle chronic stress in the same old ways that we used to. As your stress coach, I will teach you how to do more than coping with your stress while in the midst of living your full and busy life.

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You truly CAN manage stress without having to:
  • Wait until you are done with work
  • Wait until you get to the gym
  • Wait until you can go to yoga
  • Wait until you see your therapist
  • Wait until you can soak in a hot tub
  • Wait until you can read a book

I will set up a stress management program tailored to what will work best for your specific life situation.

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Is coping with stress all there is?

One of my cardiac rehabilitation clients once told me,

“Overcoming stress feels like being on a treadmill to oblivion."

Coping with stress does NOT have to continue to feel like that for you.

When I first met this client, he was coping with a re-occurance of cancer, had high blood pressure, and was recovering from having had a recent heart attack. To make it even worse, he had spent down nearly all of his savings to pay for his healthcare needs.

He very clearly articulated his feelings about how he felt the stress throughout his lifetime was responsible for his health problems.

He could now "see" it.

He chose me as his stress coach to help him "get his life back". He yearned to reconnect with a sense of inner peace and calm within himself again.

"I can barely remember it, but I need it back..."

Just like with this great man, so many experience that it is not until your body begins to suffer... (physically, emotionally, spiritually) because of chronic stress that, with fresh eyes, you begin to see anew the impact stress is having on your life.

There IS hope in coping with stress

It has been through the experiences of my clients that I have garnered a deep respect for the impact that just coping with stress CAN have on your life.

There IS hope. You CAN do more than just cope. You can live again!

As your stress coach, I will help you to reclaim control over your life.

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It IS possible to live your life versus just surviving it.

Stress CAN be managed.

Managing your stress creates greater capacities to handle the challenges of your life, and with a greater sense of control and peace.

Learning to effectively manage stress is much different than just coping with stress.

There is NO cookie-cutter method that I will use as I teach you the knowledge and skills to do more than coping with stress in life.

I will create a stress management program tailored to meet YOU where you are in your life. I will help you reduce your stress - not add to it.

I believe that each person carries within them an inner wisdom about their what is needed to restore balance and create healing.

As we work together, it IS within those moments of truth when you will have regained a sense of control over your life, and have begun to make a difference in your own health and well-being.

Just coping with stress isn't good enough!

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“Ms. Churchill is the unique health care worker everyone hopes to encounter, but rarely does. She has an extraordinary gift that allows her to do much more than diagnose and treat.”
Abbie K. – Minneapolis

K., age 45, is a long term chronically PTSD disabled patient. She has had daily headaches for 20 years. Two weeks ago she reported that she had had 4 days of pain free time, and was having the exceedingly odd sensation of "smiling all the time". She and Cathi have made extraordinary fast progress together.
Dr. Cole

I referred C.L., age mid-forties, to see Cathi after a life of suffering the post traumatic stress disorder of parental sexual abuse over many years of her childhood, with major dysfunctions of alcohol and drug abuse, and with the disabling symptoms of migraine that have for more than twenty years become chronic.

She has lived with daily headaches that have not responded to any of the several drugs which have benefited many such suffering patients. She has needed chronic opiate treatment of her chronic pain syndrome.

In the few weeks that Cathi has worked with her, C.L. has begun to experience days without pain, periods of happiness, and a reduction in her opiate dosage requirements that represent a breakthrough in her stalled-out life as a single mom raising a teen-age daughter with only social security income resources.
Dr. Racer

“I first met Cathi Churchill eight years ago when she effectively helped my work unit through the stress of a hospital-wide layoff. I was impressed with her clear-minded approach and willingness to listen.”
Andy R.

N., age 60, is a hard driving attorney twenty year patient of mine who hit the wall with chronic fatigue four years ago, and began to realize she had to learn to rest. She recovered enough to return to her workaholic lifestyle when she was stopped by a herniated cervical disc and resumption of her chronic colitis.

Working with Cathi, she is discovering "the way she does life" and learning to make choices about it. She came in last week, having "danced until dawn". She is learning to dialogue with her body in effective ways.
Dr. Cole

“I stumbled upon Cathi after my recent heart attack that was brought on by stress. I was scared of having another one, and didn’t know what to do. I had lost hope. Working with her has changed my life. I’m so grateful."
Debbie – Canada

M.S., a woman in her late forties with progressively more and more disabling rheumatoid arthritis since childhood, whose most recent problems have arisen over the last two to three years as complications of immunosuppressive therapy for her disease. The complications have been associated with the severely disabling chronic pain of recurrent herpes neuralgia for more than three years, and for the past 15 months, recurrent osteomyelitis in her right lower mandible.

The second, more alarming (even life-threatening) problem has caused months of diagnostic and therapy confusion among her many consultants, three successive resections of the bone over the last six to eight months, and the still ongoing threat of more relapses of the smoldering bone infection and chronic pain only made bearable by chronic, massive doses of opiates.

In the few months since M. began to work with Cathi with several modalities: stress management, therapeutic touch, guided imaging, and others, her life has become more livable, as she has become able to bear the pain and the discouragement of unresolved disease.

She has relied on many of the methods for maintaining hope and getting through overwhelming discouragement by using the inner resources she has learned with Cathi.

My hope as her primary physician, is that Cathi and M. will be able to continue to work together to maintain that inner strength and hope as she faces yet more months of pain, and further repeated surgery.

Thank you for the healing guidance you've been able to give her thus far.
Dr. Racer

“I sought out the help of Cathi during my divorce, and found her to be an insightful and compassionate coach. Her ability to see deep into the heart of an emotionally stressful problem is, I believe, unique and I would highly recommend her service to anyone.”
P.R. – Brooklyn Center

S., age 48, is a Laotian patient of mine with 15 years of chronic abdominal pain. She has had an extensive medical worked up, and nothing ever worked. Cathi saw her over several months.

S. has improved! Cathi established a trusting relationship with her, and helped her to effectively break through her wall of silence and grief about her son's mental illness, and taught her how to "change her thinking".

S. now comes in smiling, notes some unusual continued symptoms, but no longer has chronic abdominal disabling pain.
Dr. Cole

“Control My Stress is so amazing. I want to thank you, again, for such a valuable resource.”

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