If you would say that your main cause of stress is negatively affecting your life in any of these ways,
then the information in this site will help you control:
Chronic headaches due to stress
Chronic neck and back pain due to stress
Heart attacks due to stress
Symptoms of anxiety
Symptoms of depression
Chronic fatigue or always feeling tired
Can’t shake the feeling of being unhappy
Over the past ten years, my clients have shared how coping with stress has taken away their good health and sense of control of their lives.
Because of their main cause of stress, they no longer “feel” like themselves and they want to know how they can get their lives back.
Take Control of Your Main Cause of Stress?
Most people I’ve worked with are so used to thinking,
“Stress? Everyone is stressed. You have to just get through it.”
And, they talk about their daily struggles in just getting through all their stress…
They don’t know how to do life any differently…
If they can ignore what they’re feeling then it will go away…
A strong person just endures stress…
Fear of falling apart if they did anything else…
Fear of consequences at work if they can't handle all the stress…
Eventually, all the main causes of stress become chronic. The stress symptoms begin to take over their lives. Life begins to feel like one big stressor and the only thing that is real is their stress headache, or their insomnia, or their anxiety or depression, etc.
The “Fight or Flight” Response to Stress
It is important to have a basic understanding of how the stress response works.
For each of us, our stress response is the “fight or flight” response. This is an automatic alert system that is part of our brain and its main function is to help us survive.
The stress response is a response to a stressor.
The stress response is the body’s way of adapting to something that has happened...a way to adapt to life’s stressors.
The stress response being triggered is a very normal part of life. There is good stress that helps you be more alert and prepared, and also physical stress and mental stress.
Stress becomes negative when the body continually responds to stressors without much of a break, or a chance to rest. That is when normal stress becomes chronic stress.
Stress And Thoughts Of Uncertainty
What many don't realize is that it is their thoughts of certainty, or what they are thinking about is the main cause of their stress. More than anything, that is what keeps triggering the stress response.
It is our thoughts of fear and worry that are causing the majority of chronic stress.
What do you think about most of the time? What are your thoughts of uncertainty?
Will I be laid off?
Will I be able to find a job?
Will I have enough money to pay my bills?
Will I be able to pay the rent, take care of my family?
Will I be healthy again?
Will I ever feel like my old self again?
When will the next “thing” happen to me?
Is my relationship going to last?
How will I make it to my doctor appointments?
How utterly pervasive these fears, or thoughts of uncertainty are in our lives. I have always believed that everyone does the best they can do given the information and skills they have to work with. Managing the main cause of stress is no different.
No More Waiting
What you will learn is how to manage stress symptoms WITHOUT waiting until you:
get home from work
or until you can go to the gym or yoga class
or until you are alone
You will learn how to manage stress while, in the midst of your demanding lives and no one know that you are doing anything differently, but you WILL begin to feel better.
Because you CAN regain a sense of control over your life with LESS stress and anxiety. And, you will start feeling better.
Re-Capture Your Own Life
Over the years, one of the most recurrent themes from my clients has been,
“I feel like I have my life back.”
Learning how to manage stress and to understand all the ways that it impacts each of our lives is the starting point.
There is not just one main cause of stress. Life happens to us whether we want it to or not.
And, with that can come the countless stressors that take their toll on our lives. You CAN learn how to put yourself in a place of control of your life once again.
Share Your Tips, and Ask Questions Too
In the world that we live in, there are many causes of stress. Actually, many stressors. If you have a question about what causes stress, or have a stress tip, please share it here.
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“Ms. Churchill is the unique health care worker everyone hopes to encounter, but rarely does. She has an extraordinary gift that allows her to do much more than diagnose and treat.” Abbie K. – Minneapolis
K., age 45, is a long term chronically PTSD disabled patient. She has had daily headaches for 20 years. Two weeks ago she reported that she had had 4 days of pain free time, and was having the exceedingly odd sensation of "smiling all the time". She and Cathi have made extraordinary fast progress together. Dr. Cole
I referred C.L., age mid-forties, to see Cathi after a life of suffering the post traumatic stress disorder of parental sexual abuse over many years of her childhood, with major dysfunctions of alcohol and drug abuse, and with the disabling symptoms of migraine that have for more than twenty years become chronic.
She has lived with daily headaches that have not responded to any of the several drugs which have benefited many such suffering patients. She has needed chronic opiate treatment of her chronic pain syndrome.
In the few weeks that Cathi has worked with her, C.L. has begun to experience days without pain, periods of happiness, and a reduction in her opiate dosage requirements that represent a breakthrough in her stalled-out life as a single mom raising a teen-age daughter with only social security income resources. Dr. Racer
“I first met Cathi Churchill eight years ago when she effectively helped my work unit through the stress of a hospital-wide layoff. I was impressed with her clear-minded approach and willingness to listen.” Andy R.
N., age 60, is a hard driving attorney twenty year patient of mine who hit the wall with chronic fatigue four years ago, and began to realize she had to learn to rest. She recovered enough to return to her workaholic lifestyle when she was stopped by a herniated cervical disc and resumption of her chronic colitis.
Working with Cathi, she is discovering "the way she does life" and learning to make choices about it. She came in last week, having "danced until dawn". She is learning to dialogue with her body in effective ways. Dr. Cole
“I stumbled upon Cathi after my recent heart attack that was brought on by stress. I was scared of having another one, and didn’t know what to do. I had lost hope. Working with her has changed my life. I’m so grateful." Debbie – Canada
M.S., a woman in her late forties with progressively more and more disabling rheumatoid arthritis since childhood, whose most recent problems have arisen over the last two to three years as complications of immunosuppressive therapy for her disease. The complications have been associated with the severely disabling chronic pain of recurrent herpes neuralgia for more than three years, and for the past 15 months, recurrent osteomyelitis in her right lower mandible.
more alarming (even life-threatening) problem has caused months of diagnostic and therapy confusion among her many consultants, three successive resections of the bone over the last six to eight months, and the still ongoing threat of more relapses of the smoldering bone infection and chronic pain only made bearable by chronic, massive doses of opiates.
In the few months since M. began to work with Cathi with several modalities: stress management, therapeutic touch, guided imaging, and others, her life has become more livable, as she has become able to bear the pain and the discouragement of unresolved disease.
She has relied on many of the methods for maintaining hope and getting through overwhelming discouragement by using the inner resources she has learned with Cathi.
My hope as her primary physician, is that Cathi and M. will be able to continue to work together to maintain that inner strength and hope as she faces yet more months of pain, and further repeated surgery.
Thank you for the healing guidance you've been able to give her thus far. Dr. Racer
“I sought out the help of Cathi during my divorce, and found her to be an insightful and compassionate coach. Her ability to see deep into the heart of an emotionally stressful problem is, I believe, unique and I would highly recommend her service to anyone.” P.R. – Brooklyn Center
S., age 48, is a Laotian patient of mine with 15 years of chronic abdominal pain. She has had an extensive medical worked up, and nothing ever worked. Cathi saw her over several months.
S. has improved! Cathi established a trusting relationship with her, and helped her to effectively break through her wall of silence and grief about her son's mental illness, and taught her how to "change her thinking".
S. now comes in smiling, notes some unusual continued symptoms, but no longer has chronic abdominal disabling pain. Dr. Cole
“Control My Stress is so amazing. I want to thank you, again, for such a valuable resource.” Tony.